
By now, so much has been written about Cindy's Memorial Day departure from being "the face of the peace movement" that it feels like old hat to be writing anything. But I wasn't blogging at full capacity for a few days and have some thoughts on it, so bear with me please.
Two summers ago, like many people, I was riveted to the story of Cindy Sheehan and Camp Casey in Crawford, Texas. I became possessed by the idea of going there, to be part of what felt like the stirrings (FINALLY!) of a sleeping giant. So, a week before school began, when I should have been setting up my classroom, I convinced a friend to come with me, and together with our two teen-aged daughters we drove the thousand or so miles to Crawford for the weekend. It was an amazing experience (helped by the fact that Joan Baez was there too) that I wish more people could have shared.
Cindy Sheehan did
so much to wake up hope in people like me, people who were opposed to the war from before it began but had been absolutely marginalized by the mainstream media and the silence of those around us. She personifies the Gandhi quote "Be the change you want to see in the world." I read about every action she took, and was inspired to take action on my own. And I was deeply saddened to hear the despair in her voice last week.
Cindy's message also spoke to me on the level of being a mother who has lost a child. In the context of Cindy's loss, everything she has done makes sense to me. Having a child die is, in my mind, the most devastating and ultimately transforming of human experiences. You fall to the lowest of lows, where getting through each minute and hour of each day is a sort of triumph (except that you know you have to wake up the next day and your child -- that person who is literally a piece of you -- is
still dead, and you have to do it all over again.) It takes years to integrate that loss into your life, and you are never the same. The transformation is not necessarily for the worse; my child's death was/is an almost religious experience. Yet, 13 years later for me, there are moments when the sense of bereavement brings me to my knees.
Anyway, I believe that anyone, in the face of devastating grief, seeks to make meaning of the loss. Often that is a very private journey, and I think that we who believe in peace owe Cindy a huge debt of gratitude for making her journey so very public. I also suspect that the anger which has kept her going has probably kept her from doing some essential private grief work. The thing about grief is, it is patient. It doesn't go away, but waits for you to get to it. The part of Cindy's resignation that saddened me more than anything else, was her statement that she came to the realization that Casey
had died for nothing. I hope that Cindy feels the thoughts of all of us little people who are not in the public eye and don't have the public ear: I want to say that Casey's life meant
everything and I am grateful that she shared him with us.
Well, I don't mean to lapse into psychobabble. The other prevailing thought I've been having is anger at those who are supposedly on
my side who attacked her. (Kind of like those who have attacked Ralph Nader, Michael Moore, and others. Sheesh. What is
wrong with these people???) Particularly those who applied the label, "whore." Isn't it interesting how easy it is to fall into the old misogynistic name calling when a woman gets "uppity"?
Anyway, I am here to say that the cause of peace is not dead. Every little action that any one of us does makes a difference. It isn't easy; in fact, sometimes it seems downright impossible. But we need to lift each other up, not denigrate fellow activists. We are
all the faces of the peace movement.
Peace.